You are truly in the middle of a difficult situation. What your fiancé needs to try to understand is despite the previous issues with your mother, she is your family, and whether he likes it or not, your mom will also be his family once you two are married. Family members—especially mothers and daughters—disagree. This, however, should not stop the two parties from forgiving each other and working to reestablish a solid relationship. Until this happens, limit her visits while he is around. If you say that she really likes him, maybe you should try explaining his position to her. As your future husband, he wants to protect you from situations that cause you pain. See if you and your mother can figure out a way to better resolve issues prior to your wedding day. If you can’t, maybe seeking professional help is a better option. I think it’s commendable that he wants to protect you, but it’s not very realistic for you never to see your mom.
Jennifer J. Hayes